Posts made in September, 2013


When Parenting Hurts

When Parenting Hurts


Posted By on Sep 25, 2013

Children’s lives depend on their parents.   They look to us to provide protection, boundaries, strength, and leadership. This is especially true for children with histories of broken attachments, loss, and trauma. Yet these are the children who can test our resources to the limit (and beyond). Parenting wounded children can be a relentless, intense and painful experience, not least because we are at risk of secondary trauma and...

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The Gift of Containment

The Gift of Containment


Posted By on Sep 23, 2013

For a child to feel contained when he goes into high arousal, you need to stay calm and strong. If you do, you are acting as an emotional regulator for his highly overwhelmed state: This is containment. It is a very beautiful gift to a child locked in rage Margot Sunderland, How to Help Children Locked In Rage and Hate   When our children are struggling, or suffering, or acting out, or hurt, we receive an intense jolt of energy...

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Strength in the Face of Resistance


Posted By on Sep 23, 2013

Our Support and Advocacy practices help parents develop the embodied strength of action that is needed where ever they may meet resistance or criticism In our Parent Coaching, we explore the Essential Acts of Self-Care. Two of these are Support and Advocacy.   Parents are usually deemed to be the experts in their children, and have the power and influence to make a difference in matters affecting their lives. Sadly, this is not...

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  “However peaceful a person may wish to be, their capacity to think, talk and act peacefully will be undermined if their body is not in a state of peace.” – Paul Linden.       In my personal experience, and through working as a Mental Health Mentor and Parent Coach, I’ve learned that the most powerful pathway to an embodied state of peace is through self-compassion and self-acceptance. Too...

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The Dance of Attachment


Posted By on Sep 22, 2013

Parenthood is full of uncertainties, but at least there is one thing that’s guaranteed; we will get triggered, no matter how much awareness we bring to our parenting. It is inevitable that breaches will occur in the ebb and flow of the relationship…a healthy partnership dances in and out of attachment multiple times in a day.   And whilst it is useful to identify the historical narrrative that drives our reactions, it...

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