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When Love Is The Trigger

When Love Is The Trigger


Posted By on Feb 14, 2015

(It’s Valentine’s Day and love is all around. So here is a post to honour those whose path to true love is a little rocky). Why do attachment-disordered children struggle so hard to accept our Love, the very stuff that would help them heal? Because love brings with it promises that were never fulfilled; promises of safety, loyalty, protection and comfort. For these children, Love is simply a trigger for the hurt, and the...

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Help required!


Posted By on Jun 17, 2014

Help required! Nine-year-old girl in search of calm, safe father. Who can stand tall and steadfast in the gales of my furies and confusions. Who can guide me without boring me. Who can remind without nagging. Who can tell funny jokes. Who will accept me as I am, for life. Where did I lose myself amid her outbursts and the eggshells? When did my sands start to erode? When did I start to think that tension would shore us all up a bit...

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Some of us have children who behave in ways that would leave any parent feeling inadequate, powerless and utterly helpless. As a result of a daily diet of defiance, provocation, and maybe even assault, we can become so possessed with feelings, that there is no meditation, mantra, centering, breathing, or self acceptance practice that can anchor us to a peaceful body and mind. It’s a fact of life, that no matter how secure and well...

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Re-filling the tank


Posted By on Apr 2, 2014

It was my birthday on Tuesday, and my wife and I went for a mid-morning Indian Head Massage. We have fairly tightly-defined routines that allow us to check-in briefly a couple of times a day, but not much more. In contrast, on Tuesday morning, all we could do was sit comfortably whilst two therapists gently rubbed our scalps. When our time was up, I turned to my wife and saw someone who was – for that moment – without...

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When Parenting Hurts

When Parenting Hurts


Posted By on Sep 25, 2013

Children’s lives depend on their parents.   They look to us to provide protection, boundaries, strength, and leadership. This is especially true for children with histories of broken attachments, loss, and trauma. Yet these are the children who can test our resources to the limit (and beyond). Parenting wounded children can be a relentless, intense and painful experience, not least because we are at risk of secondary trauma and...

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The Gift of Containment

The Gift of Containment


Posted By on Sep 23, 2013

For a child to feel contained when he goes into high arousal, you need to stay calm and strong. If you do, you are acting as an emotional regulator for his highly overwhelmed state: This is containment. It is a very beautiful gift to a child locked in rage Margot Sunderland, How to Help Children Locked In Rage and Hate   When our children are struggling, or suffering, or acting out, or hurt, we receive an intense jolt of energy...

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Strength in the Face of Resistance


Posted By on Sep 23, 2013

Our Support and Advocacy practices help parents develop the embodied strength of action that is needed where ever they may meet resistance or criticism In our Parent Coaching, we explore the Essential Acts of Self-Care. Two of these are Support and Advocacy.   Parents are usually deemed to be the experts in their children, and have the power and influence to make a difference in matters affecting their lives. Sadly, this is not...

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  “However peaceful a person may wish to be, their capacity to think, talk and act peacefully will be undermined if their body is not in a state of peace.” – Paul Linden.       In my personal experience, and through working as a Mental Health Mentor and Parent Coach, I’ve learned that the most powerful pathway to an embodied state of peace is through self-compassion and self-acceptance. Too...

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The Dance of Attachment


Posted By on Sep 22, 2013

Parenthood is full of uncertainties, but at least there is one thing that’s guaranteed; we will get triggered, no matter how much awareness we bring to our parenting. It is inevitable that breaches will occur in the ebb and flow of the relationship…a healthy partnership dances in and out of attachment multiple times in a day.   And whilst it is useful to identify the historical narrrative that drives our reactions, it...

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Welcome


Posted By on Apr 27, 2013

James and Kirstie welcome you to Embodied Parent Education. We will be back soon to share articles, news and information on our blog. Please also check our facebook page www.facebook.com/EmbodiedParentEducation for more wisdom and insights. Please comment, like and share to spread the word and get in touch with us if you want to learn with us. Thank...

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